It’s a fast paced world today.  People are working longer and tend to be involved in many things, whether activities with their children or family responsibilities, long hours working, and just generally taking care of the hustle and bustle of life.  We allocate time for all of these things, but because we get too busy we neglect our inner self.  How much time do you spend listening to your own thoughts?

I’m a ponderer.  For years I’ve lived with this “affliction”.  The wheels always seem to be spinning and it’s difficult to turn it off.  That’s just the way I’m wired.  I like to solve problem.  I like to find ways to do things differently or ideally better.  One of the things I have tried to exercise more over the last few years is a concerted effort to develop my own thought management system.

The biggest measurable change I’ve made is to take at least thirty minutes every day to just quietly think about things.  Sometimes it’s a broad reflection on everything that is going on in my life.  Other times it’s a particular problem on which I’ve been working.  For me, being able to table everything else that’s going on and give these things some focus often breeds prospective solutions or peace of mind on what can be done to manage the issue.  In addition, it gives me an opportunity to give valuation to the things that are important.  It’s a time to set priorities and put my time into perspective.

I think the thing that a lot of people lose sight of is the “me” time.  We all focus on the activities and needs that others are requesting or demanding from us, but not enough time really analyzing the things that are occurring inside of us.  For many years, I had become quite proficient at pushing away and ignoring the parts of my thinking that were based on the emotional – the areas where things aren’t based on black and white answers.  Every exchange we have with someone adds or decreases value in our relationships.  Likewise, our interactions with our thoughts contribute in some way to our relationship with ourselves – we feel a little better or a little worse about who we are.

I’ve mentioned before that the way I choose to provide myself time for self reflection is a morning walk.  It gives me a routine where I can house the process of formulating my vision for where I wish for my day to go and how I plan on tackling  challenges.  It’s an untainted place free from the influence of others who likely do not completely understand everything that may sit within every crevice of your mind and may only be privy to a certain slice of the whole pie.  I’m curious to hear some feedback from those of you who do practice a formal method of self reflection.  How does this time manifest itself for you?  Where to go to spend quality time hanging out with you?

~ by bfmooz on June 15, 2011.

6 Responses to “Reflection”

  1. Your morning walk reminded me of the strolls with the kids when they were still little. I have only recently thought again of how my wife and I had that time together (before the kids had as many demands of their own). We also lived in a bigger neighborhood where you could take a nice walk without running out of space.

    I have used working out as a means to get some “me” time as well. Reading and time in the hot tub with my kids is also cool… but I like yard work and gardening as the recurrent opportunity to get outside and invest in myself.

    • Thanks for sharing, Ken.

      Interestingly enough, though we can’t do so during the week very often, my wife and I take our morning strolls together on the weekend as much as possible. I think she is starting to get used to using the time much the same. We will talk during those walks, but very little. We both just walk side by side and do our pondering. Once we’re done, we go back to our normal interactions. It’s a special thing to share some time with someone, and quite fulfilling when two people can respect the importance and boundaries of personal time.

  2. Of course, like we respect the importance and boundaries of personal time at work, right?


    • Nice. I think that might be a different kind of personal time. I’m referring to time to reflect inward. Personal time at work refers to balance a lot of hard work with completely entertaining irreverence. A careful balance keeps the day fun.

      And I’d like it noted that at no time have I ever contributed to any conversation regarding anyone’s posterior.

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