Get a Hold of Letting Go

Letting things go can be one of the hardest things to learn how to do.  The need seems to come and go within our lives at various moments in multitudes of forms.  It’s never easy.  That’s just a fact.  In a lot of ways it’s a hard topic to address because there are lots of ways we deal with it (or don’t deal with it) and not a real definitive answer on which ways are right or wrong.

Every day we encounter situations where we need to let go.  It might be a quite obvious situation such as the death of a loved one, or a divorce or break-up with someone near to our heart.  Other times it isn’t quite as apparent to us though in a lot of ways it requires the same sort of reaction.  It might be something someone said to us at work or something said to us in casual passing such as a grocery store clerk that’s just having a bad day.  We thrive on the negativity of these situations.  Yet seemingly it lingers with us a lot longer than the joys we come across throughout our day.

When something bad happens to us, our natural reaction is to fall into it.  It takes effort to pull ourselves back out of it and move forward.  It isn’t just a natural phenomenon where it just goes away.  Yes, some situations do take longer than others to get over, and that’s natural for us all, but there come times where we just need to look forward in our lives.

Here is my philosophy on overcoming the ruts.  Life is about perpetual motion, but it’s also about kinetic energy.  Every action leads us to our next action.  When actions take us to a bad place, counter it with a reaction to a positive place.  Sometimes we can’t just sit and wait for happiness or satisfaction to just fall back into our laps – we need to push ourselves forward in the direction that leads us to where we want to be.  And sometimes it just isn’t that simple.  We are the architects of our own destiny, yet there are situations where we are not in control or have limited control.  The ideal to remember is that’s ok.  It’s alright to admit that we can only control some things and not having control over everything is not a sign of our weakness, but a sign of acceptance.  We attempt to direct the things that we cannot control by fully embracing and acting on the things that we can.

~ by bfmooz on June 23, 2011.

2 Responses to “Get a Hold of Letting Go”

  1. Our uncanny ability to feed the needs of others who are connected to our lives pushes through the fog and shines our way through these tough times. or, i cannot believe how each time i read one of these, it’s like you wrote it just for me! sometimes you remind me of what i know and sometimes, you chime right in with what i have been saying! either way, i am so glad to be able to read these and feel connected and not so alone as we go through this chapter and start a new one.

    • I appreciate your insight, Anonymous. That’s always been my intent with the things I share. The truth is there aren’t many issues that we all go through that someone else at sometime isn’t dealing with in some way as well. The thing is that too often we don’t have a means of sharing these things and in many ways society has taught us to just deal with them in our own way. The reality is we are all in this together. We all have the means to help and to speak. It’s all a matter of if we choose to do so and put away our fears.

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