The Value of You


8-6-2011 9-50-12 PM

When I started this blog about two months ago, I started with the intent of taking some of the things that I am thinking about personally and sharing them with others with the idea that if I could provide any hope to at least one other person, I’ve provided some value.  I got to thinking today about how this exchange occurs and what is required in order to provide this type of fulfillment to someone’s life.  I thought about the age old statement that in many way is still so very true today – “You cannot help anyone until you can help yourself.”

I was inspired by other people to start being more active in getting involved online, whether it be social media or blogging or just commenting more on various forums or bulletin boards to which I belong.  Likewise, I’ve had several conversations with people this week that either have also been interested in starting their own blogs or creating their own sites and many of them share the same reservation that I had prior to trying.  They all say “I wouldn’t have anything interesting to say” or “nobody would care about my ideas.”  In a lot of ways, this can be a reflection on our sense of self worth.

Do we really understand how important we can be to other people?  Impact and influence can be such stealthy notions.  Several of you that are regular readers here have sent me messages that there have been certain posts that have triggered things inside that directly spoke to circumstances that were happening or situations that where present at the time.  Likewise, this makes me think about the blogs and sites that I follow that tend to perform the same service in my life.

The truth is that we can never know just how important our influence plays in the life of other people.  We can attempt to gauge, but as the medium of internet becomes much more prominent in communications and learning, we increasingly breed “lurkers” who like to sit back and absorb.  I can completely relate…I’ve played that role many times and in many situations still do.  But a large part of being able to accept the position that our words have value in a public platform, whether grand or limited, is accepting our own self worth and seeking to find our own importance.

Many of the most influential and inspirational people in my life have been people that probably didn’t realize the importance they’ve played to me.  In many ways it’s a testament to their humility, but in others it’s also been a testament to a lack of confidence and belief in themselves.  Too many times I’ve come upon amazing and genuine people who are stymied by a sort of self loathing.  A sense of being that makes them feel unimportant.

Deep inside, if we take the time to reflect and focus on our own selves, we find that deep within there exists a fascinating and unique individual who has an unprecedented wealth to share with the world.  We all offer new and differing perspectives, ideas, opinions and ideologies.  When we choose to exercise those hidden gems of knowledge, many times we invite in the opportunity for increased wisdom.  We find like-minded people willing to share their own observations and add enrichment to a conversation.  Sometimes we find people that might have differing opinions, but in doing so we allow for opportunities to intellectually yet passionately debate and compare so that we can reach an understanding (which may just be an understanding to disagree) and can even further strengthen our resolve in our belief.  Either way, the exchange of thoughts has historically been and will continue to be the way we learn, the way we grow, and the way we build respect for others.

Take some time to think about what is your value.  The incidental twist in doing so might just be that in taking the risk to engage with others, we find out that we have value to people and in turn build our own sense of self worth and appreciation.  If our minds and hearts are in the right place and our resolve is to add value to the lives of others, we will continue to increase the valuation of our stock in “me”.

~ by bfmooz on August 6, 2011.

2 Responses to “The Value of You”

  1. I like your post. What you say is the truth. I think part of it is insecurity. I see this in the classroom all the time. I can tell about half of the students don’t answer because they haven’t read the material, but the other half seems to hold back for fear of giving an incorrect answer.

    I think this applies to us in many social settings. We don’t like the idea of being wrong or being scrutinized for an idea or opinion–especially if it is an idea stemming from deeper thought. It makes people feel vulnerable and many people are not willing to go outside of their comfort zone.

    It is refreshing when we meet people who are genuine and like to share and build upon ideas, rather than shutting out whatever does not mesh well with their own belief system.

    • Great perception, Cyndi. In many ways it’s a contrast of our value in our beliefs and ideals versus our value in ourselves. In our private thoughts, some people will know without a shadow of a doubt that they hold something to be truth, unwavering and steadfast. But when it comes time to speak out or make the physical action of conveying that belief, they fill with doubt and begin to think “but what if I’m wrong?”. They fail to step outside of themselves in that moment and realize that it’s the perception of value in themselves that is overtaking the convictions and stances they know to be true.

      In many ways, I think the landscape has changed so much in the way that people exchange thoughts with each other today that it further lends itself to people being closed off and withdrawn. We have become a very black and white society where we are very intolerant to differing opinions. We have lost the art of “agreeing to disagree” and become easily stigmatized as an outsider for offering different opinions. As free thinkers, we need to embrace these opportunities to differ and learn from these exchanges. Without the ability to share differences in thoughts, we would all be exactly the same and creativity and social growth would slow if not stop.

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