The Balance of Hearts and Smarts


8-9-2011 5-44-50 PM

A conversation with a good friend of mine recently got me to thinking about thinking.  He used the clique phrase “thinking with my heart and not my head”.  It got me wondering which is the correct way we should think.  It downed on me that the correct answer was both.

I started to dissect what this really means.  It means removing logic from the equation and replacing it with emotion.  When I thought on this, I couldn’t help but realize what a tragic notion this really was.  Let’s think about it…without introducing a logical thought process into what we are pondering, aren’t we essentially condoning any action that we want to do?

The gift of reason is an often underutilized trait.  Too often we don’t exercise it with other people let alone ourselves.  Being able to dissect a situation in our lives is a critical and important process.  We can become so prone to focus on the emotional aspects first that too often it blinds us to rational and cohesive thoughts.  It takes us away from seeing things that are obvious at times.

Somewhere there needs to be a blend of the two within our thought processes.  Always thinking with emotion makes us reckless and irrational.  Always thinking with logic makes us unfeeling (and potentially a very famous Vulcan aboard the USS Enterprise).  Being able to use each to weigh the other is a skill.  We need to use logical thinking to determine choices and consequences.  Once we’ve found our viable solutions and measured the risk, it’s our heart that then gravitates toward the outcome rather than the dilemma.

When we carelessly and without reason throw caution to the wind and just do whatever we wish without considering the repercussions, which side of our thinking will pick up the pieces when failure occurs?  Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying that risk is not appropriate.  Those of you that know me are pretty sure that this has never been my creed in life.  But risk is quantifiable.  It should be calculated so that we understand what will happen should things not go as planned.  If we don’t introduce reasonable and logical thinking, when things go bad, we are pulled into a maelstrom of emotional turmoil with no way of escaping the tailspin.

People should not live in a bubble never experiencing the joys that life has to offer, yet when you decide to go cliff diving in Brazil, it’s usually a good idea to make sure there is water below you before you jump.  There is a lot out there that life has to offer, but being frivolous and not providing yourself with a good foundation of logic first can lead to disastrous results.  We don’t want to cut of our nose to spite our face.  Neither let your heart be the undoing of your mind.

~ by bfmooz on August 9, 2011.

2 Responses to “The Balance of Hearts and Smarts”

  1. I also follow “think with your heart”. To me this does not mean go with your emotions. It means to sync into your heart and listen to your heart, which is where your compassion resides for fellow souls. This place brings you to a place of peace, void of any type of fear. And once you are in this place, you make decisions based on what is best for all. When you are in your head, you are in fear.

    So I understand your point that logic must be included, it is getting to the place of peace first before you make a decision

    • Thanks for the comment, Nancy. I agree with you about compassion being a key characteristic of the heart. I do not know that I can completely share your view that thinking from the head correlates to living in fear. I believe that decisions based on wisdom can breed happiness.

      Let me give you an example. The heart might say that I want to help the poor and needy. It’s a wonderful gesture that will breed happiness and joy to someone who desperately needs it. It’s a decision from the heart. However, what if you were to completely empty your bank accounts, take every penny out of your 401k or investments, sell all of your properties including your home, and give it all away to the needy? It’s still the same grand gesture of good will, but at the same time it is an illogical choice because you have now thrown yourself into the same living circumstance from which you were trying to save others. What if you had family and children too? You’ve now condemned them to a destitute life at the expense of a good act to another. This is where the balance of logic, compassion, wisdom, and emotion all need to work in unison to make the correct choices.

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