Your Own Worst Enemy


8-23-2011 9-23-43 AM

What exactly is an enemy? defines it as “a person who is actively opposed or hostile to someone or something.”  So what happens with the person that causes us the most hostility and creates the most angst in life is our own self?

People can be very proud.  We can have an inherent need to be right.  It’s a very natural instinct, but where this becomes detrimental is when we hold so tightly to this need to be the right one in every situation that it creates animosity and discourse with the people we know and interact with on a regular basis.  It migrates beyond just the self fulfillment of being right into a personal vendetta with someone with whom we disagree.

Here’s a statement to remember: it’s ok to be wrong.  Literally millions of people do it every single day.  Unless any of you reading this happen to be some sort of deity or immortal holy being, we’ve all made mistakes at some time.  It happens to the very best of us.  But it isn’t about being wrong.  It’s about how we react when we are.

And to make a clear distinction here, I’m not referring to conceding when you actually feel you are right.  There’s a difference between defending what you believe to be truth and grasping tightly to an ideal which has been proven to yourself to be incorrect.  There is a point that we experience where we all have thought something to be true but an epiphany is born where we realize our thoughts were moving in the wrong direction.

So what happens when this moment occurs?  On one side, you can take the route of just sticking to your guns and clinging to the mistake.  On this side, everyone follows your lead and the whole herd runs off the cliff of incorrect thinking.  On the other side, you just shake it off, take the high road, admit the mistake, and everyone moves on.  Seems like a pretty clear choice.

Somewhere along the line people get this notion that being wrong is an admission of weakness.  They feel that if they are wrong that they are less of a person.  Quite the contrary.  I believe it takes a much bigger person to admit their mistakes and correct the ship’s path than to try to cover or ignore it.

To bring this to a personal level, I speak with intimate knowledge of this scenario.  I have many people within my sphere of influence, both family and friends, that are plagued with this affliction.  It has created deep scars that we have all had to endure for many years.  I am also at times guilty of this issue.  The thing to remember when dealing with mistakes that we all need to consider the long standing repercussions of our actions.  In the long run, it is much easier to say “I’m sorry…I made a mistake” than to look back and say “I wish I had” or “I should have” when it’s too late.

~ by bfmooz on August 23, 2011.

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